also when setting up the reverse proxy for it so I can have https://messenger.mysite.net I get a proxy error, though I know I have it set properly.  I think if I can get the reverse proxy working properly I will be able to get it working as when I goto https://mysite.net:5443 I get the cert error because the cert is for messenger and not for mysite.  So it is finding the right certs.

Edit: I can get it to work by going directly to the port, but would eventually love to be able to have it use the reverse proxy.